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Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Death by Wanting

Soren: "You're not nice, Mommy!"

Me: "Mommy is so nice."

Soren: "No she's not."

Me: "Mommy is awesome."

Soren: "No you're not . . . because you don't give me whatever I want!"

Me: "Oh ho!  The sooner you resolve yourself to that little fact of life, the better.  :0)  Mommy is so wonderful."

Soren: "No she's not!  You're not ever going to be wonderful because you don't give me whatever I want!"


"Evil" Mommy's musings after this episode:

Setting clear boundaries for ourselves and our children is a practice that can and should be implemented and promoted all the way up the social and political ladder.  Boundaries are key. The functioning of our greater society would do well to model itself after the functioning and governance of the singular familial unit which exercises discipline, respect, and boundary maintenance on a daily basis . . . even in the face of threats, intimidation, and declarations of offense and supposed "unloveability."


Scott and Karin said...

I've often heard that your not a good parent until your child says that they don't like you.

Erika said...

I know I am doing something right when my kids tell me I am "mean." I am glad you are a "mean" mom!

provobaileys said...

You are a mean mom. You got him a bike. How awfully mean of you. Terrible, Terrible, mean of you. I bet you even yell at him and tell him he can't ride his bike in the street, to wear a helmet, to brush his teeth, eat his veg, etc..etc..
It isn't a good day until Claire tells me she hates me. Usually for telling her she can't hit her sister.

Scott and Megan said...

Um... looks like a pretty awesome mommy to me with a new bike sitting there!

Even with out the bike, I've seen you in action, you are definitely nice, cool, awesome, wonderful, etc.!!!

Lisa said...

I hear the same thing from Parker lately when he doesn't get what he wants. I agree that boundaries are important, especially between parent and child.

Wendy said...

Hey Liz! Just catching up on your cute blog. Love all the new posts. Hope you guys are doing well! I think we get to see you soon, right?!?

ScottnLisa said...

Haven't had too much of that from Crystal yet. Whenever I'm mad at her and scold her I always end it with "mommy still loves you" I can't help it. Now whenever I get mad at her she always asks "but you still love me right?" and I have to answer yes, then send her to her room. :)

Brooklet said...

yeah, claire and I have that conversation a little more often than I would like, but whatever. But she is a girl and is a little more dramatic sometimes, throwing in, 'I will never be happy, forever.' Life is tough for the youngin's