Why do we expect our small children to like and appreciate everything? Even things we ourselves don't like? Buddha gets upset when I give him room temperature water. I get frustrated in return because it's just water, you're not supposed to have a preference about water. If I stopped to think about it for a second, though, I would remember that I HATE room temperature water. I love it to be icy cold and refreshing. So why shouldn't my son like it that way, too? Why do I think my three-year-old shouldn't have opinions?
Whenever the UPS truck drives by our house, I always yell, "UPS!! Stop at our house!" It's always fun to receive packages, right? Anyway, the last few weeks, whenever I see that truck and yell my lungs out, I immediately ask Buddha, "What do you think the UPS man would bring us if he stopped at our house?" These are his answers. What do you make of them?
Thursday, June 5th
"A sandhill fishing pool crane bucket with a fishing thing."
Friday, June 6th
"A fishing pond bucket with a fishing thing."
Monday, June 9th
"A sandhill fishing bucket thing."
Thursday, June 12th
"I don't know. I don't know, Mom!"
Can you tell he was getting tired of me testing his memory skills?
We've been chillin' this month, how about you? I think we're storing up our energy for our much-anticipated family reunion during the 4th of July. There's not much else going on around here. We got a new bishop because our stake president was called to be a mission president and our bishop got called to the new stake presidency. So now the former 1st counselor is bishop and the former 2nd counselor is 1st counselor and the former Sunday School teacher is now 2nd counselor (it's okay if you didn't follow all that). We still don't know who will be assigned to oversee the Primary, but we hope we get to keep Gus. We like him.
We've been working on good behavior with Buddha. He tends to fall apart in fits and tantrums on a dime. We've been following a program based on the book The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child, by Alan Kazdin, that focuses on positive reinforcements, positive opposites, and praise, praise, praise. It is tiring and some days I don't do so well, but on the days that we are in line with the method, there is a HUGE difference in Buddha's behavior. Kids just need more praise and more positive direction - rather than focus on what they can't/shouldn't do, we are supposed to emphasize the things we would like them to be doing instead of the negative behavior they so often exhibit. This is Buddha's good behavior chart:
One of the behaviors we would like to see more of, listed on Buddha's good behavior chart, is going pee-pee and poo-poo in the toilet like a big boy. Well, we've made some progress. Buddha will now go pee-pee in the toilet most of the time. But he won't go poop. He says he can't, he doesn't know how, and he cries and screams and carries on. I'm at my wits end. This is the point where I usually give up. I can't understand how he's supposed to learn this if he won't even try?! Teaching someone how to poop, as opposed to how to poop on the toilet, is like trying to teach someone how to hear...you can't. It's innate, or should be, at any rate. The other problem is that he says he likes the feeling of going poop in his diaper. I would just leave him in underwear to break this attachment, but I can see the future before me, stretching out in lines and lines and baskets and baskets and weeks and weeks of poopy underwear laundry needing to be cleaned. It's so easy to get discouraged doing this. I had an epiphany the other day that I should put something on the wall in front of Buddha to distract him while he's on the toilet, but I've been racking my brain since my "ah-ha" moment and I can't come up with any ideas of what to put up. Does anyone out there have any ideas for me? A game? A portable DVD player with movies? A mirror?
Bugga wanted in on the party the first day we set about potty training Buddha...again. Before I got these pictures, he had already been through a few pair of underwear. Yeah, not fun. I love diapers. As unfriendly to our environment as they are, they are really good friends to my patience and my nerves, so for now I think I'll keep them around.
We got a little kiddie pool for the backyard. The boys loved it. I hauled the beach toys out there and they played and splashed and messed around in there for hours. I got to read. Ha! I'm brilliant! :)
After a yummy snack...
...and a quick squeeze...